Reese after begging me to take him to the pet store to look at the puppies.
- Reese, doing what he does best. Looking absolutely adorable.
Today is Reese’s 12th birthday. Wow. My baby boy is 12. In true Reese fashion, he requested a beef stick from the gas station this morning as a gift. This came after The Grams (My Mom and Gram Baker) made him a delicious breakfast of pancakes, complete with candles. Birthday money was given, and hugs and kisses traded for a good day. Off to school we went, and of course, I said “I love you, Happy Birthday!” He hopped out for basketball open gym, and off he went. Off he went. In more ways than one.
Reese was a total, complete surprise baby. Not like, “Oh, Wow, I’m pregnant.” More like “YOU HAVE GOT TO BE FUCKING KIDDING ME.” See, Reese and his older brother Brady are “Irish Twins.” If you don’t know what that is, it’s a Mother having babies back to back, within approximately a year’s time. Think The Duggar Family. Only I learned enough to stop at 2 kids. Brady was born on Nov 1, 1998. Reese was born Sep 29, 1999. Do the math. The boys’ Dad’s birthday is Jan 5th. So, I’m pretty sure that Reese is the result of my gift to his Dad, if you know what I mean. Imagine this-I gave birth on Nov 1. I go back to the doctor after 6 weeks, get the ok to “resume relations”, and BOOM- 4 weeks later I find out I’m knocked up again. Holy Shit. Sweet Lord and Baby Jesus. Spank my ass and call me “Charlie.” I’m breastfeeding a newborn, fighting a horrendous case of postpartum depression, dealing with a very difficult relationship with the boys’ Dad, and now, Ms. Fancy Nurse Practitioner, you wanna tell me I have ANOTHER bun in the oven? Stick a fork in me, darlin’, ’cause I AM DONE.
Reese, age 3- already a home run slugger.
“Everything happens for a reason.” How often do you hear that? All the time. I say it frequently. But at that time, I couldn’t wrap my head around what was happening. I literally lost my mind. I’m sad to say that a lot of my pregnancy with Reese was a blur. I had a 3 month old to feed in between the morning sickness that I didn’t have before, and attempt to work. So a lot of stress and juggling went into daily life. I couldn’t appreciate the milestones for my second pregnancy like I could my first.
But, the light at the end of the tunnel slowly dawned on me. I have written before about my Gram Baker. She has been a constant source of love, support and friendship in my life. Gram was born in 1915. She’s lived through EVERYTHING. Including me. And even though the thought of 2 babies frankly scared the shit out of me, I knew, I mean KNEW, that I was supposed to have these 2 boys so close together so that they could know and love Gram like I do. So they would have the chance to KNOW her. Not just have vague memories of a shrunken old lady, but to have her influence and wisdom in their lives. THIS is why I was unknowingly blessed with Reese. When I was a little girl, and my Grandpa Baker was still alive, Gram used to call him “Honey”. So, as a young impressionable toddler, I assumed his name was “Honey”, and called him “Grandpa Honey” for the longest time. When Reese was a baby, Gram called him “My Sweetheart”. So still to this day, Reese refers to himself as “Gram Baker’s Sweetheart” when he is talking about himself around her. Those 2 have such a special bond. I am forever grateful for that one night in January when a lack of protection led me to this child who KNOWS his great-grandmother the way he does.
After heavy meds for a dislocated hand-asleep on my chest. The perfect place to be.
My due date was Tuesday, Sep 28, 1999. Nothing. No contractions, no mucus plug, no nothing. I already had a weekly Dr appt on Wednesday, the day after. Baby Daddy and I got up early, left Brady with his grandparents, loaded up the car “just in case”, and headed 30 miles away for the appt. We had found some money that morning that we didn’t know we had, and decided to make a day of it. We went to Denny’s, ate breakfast, bought a homeless guy some eggs and coffee, and decided that it was going to be a good day. Off we waddled to the Dr, who of course, poked, prodded and basically violated me 17 different ways before saying, “Looks like you are 3 1/2 cm dilated, wanna have the baby today?” “YES!!!!!” I screamed. She told us to check in the hospital around 1230pm. It was mid morning, so we had some time to kill. We went to a department store, walked around, and Baby Daddy bought me a necklace in honor of this special day. (He wasn’t always or still currently an asshole, but we did have some rough years)- The time got close, so we headed back to the hospital to get this show on the road. We checked in, then decided to call everybody and let them know what was going on. While Baby Daddy was making the calls, I was ensconced in the L/D bed, watching Days of Our Lives on TV while they started my pitocin drip. 130pm. Nothing happened for a bit, so at 2pm they jacked the dose of medication up. MOTHER FUCKER. Shit happened right quick and in a hurry after that. It snowed me. Seriously, it’s all a vague blur. I remember screaming for the anesthesia, and it seemed like every damn person who walked in the room and was NOT the anesthesiologist (his name was Ed) kept saying “He’s on his way, just a few minutes.” BULLSHIT. Ed finally strolls in after what seemed like 38 years later, and gets me ready for the epidural. As I’m moving up to sit on the edge of the bed, my water broke with such fury and vengeance that I literally felt the amniotic sac rip apart inside me. Like “Alien”. That was excruciating. After I got done sobbing and screaming, Ed and his sadistic med student (who I believe I called Dickhead) decided to give me the epidural injection RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE OF A GOD DAMN CONTRACTION. Nice work, assholes. Needless to say, it was unsuccessful. So, we got to do it again. How fucking fun. By this time, my pain is so intense and crazy fast, I’ve pissed off every poor nurse and aide who came in the room. I do know for a fact that I pulled the blood pressure cuff off my arm (I hate those things anyway) and told one nurse that if she put it back on me, I would wrap it around her fucking neck. (I did apologize to her after everything was done). So the happy meds FINALLY kick in, and not 10 minutes later, I sense that feeling that I have to poop, but know it’s time to push. Mind you, I had already gone through the miracle of birth less than year before, so I did know what I was talking about. I told the nurse I had to push. Said, “Oh, no, honey, we haven’t even checked you yet. It’s not time yet.” Again, BULLSHIT. I told her- no, for real, I need to push and need to push NOW. She checked me, and her eyes got as big as dinner plates. “Oh, well, dear, just don’t bear down and we will get the doctor.” There was a mad scramble, and I remember looking up as the door opened the same time my legs were being pushed into stirrups. The doctor comes barreling in, the nurses are quickly trying to get the Doc in a gown, and I’m screaming and yelling and crying that I have to push. So, I pushed. Twice. And- Abracadabra- the baby was here. Oh, Sweet Relief.
Sweet Relief quickly turned to panic, however, because my new Knucklehead was not breathing. Seems his first gulp of air was all the remaining amniotic fluid, and the poor guy got choked. It was very quiet in the delivery room. Of course, I can’t see what’s happening behind me where the bassinet was, but Baby Daddy was all up in the middle of the situation. He was stretching across, holding my hand while the placenta was coming out fast and furious, but trying to figure out what was going on with Peanut. Not one single staff member told us anything. Then all of a sudden, we heard a “Meow”. Baby mewling. Then crying, then screaming. Oh, Praise The Lord. Turns out that they had to bag and tube him to get him going with the whole breathing thing. They pronounced him ok, swaddled him, then finally handed him to me after what seemed like years. In reality, labor took me exactly 2 hours and 51 minutes. Shit on a shingle, that was intense.
Reese's Dad's wedding. In a tux. He's hot. He's grouchy. He's so damn handsome.
So that’s how my little devil got here. And WHY he’s here. For a reason. To bless us all with his wit, his heart, his compassion, his smart-assyness, his tantrums, his meltdowns, his laugh, and his beautiful smile. This little man, who is learning his own path, his own way, and what kind of person he is. Off he goes. Whether I want him to or not. Momma loves you, Reese. You’ll always be my baby, no matter what.
Reese after IL State sectional champs game- His homerun ball.
That is all for now.
My Knucklehead.